He only nurses at night,during the day he is at daycare and on the weekends he will ask me during nap times Iam not pumping milk and he takes nap at daycare he drinks regular milk and eats really well. Iam just tired of the express milk all night. what can i do to convince him its time, we talked about being a big boy and breast milk is for babys. I have even told him that they were broken and he told me that he could fix them.
January 31st, 2010 at 5:49 pm
Everytime my granddaughter wanted to nurse, my son would take her out for a ride or a walk around the block, distracting her. It took 4 days. So maybe Dad can put him to bed for a few nights.
January 31st, 2010 at 11:02 pm
You have to tell him “No” and be firm. I know it’s hard, but you have to reclaim your breasts as your own. It may be hard on him, and he may throw a temper tantrum, but don’t give in. Stop it cold turkey. He’ll be fine after a few nights of “No”.
February 1st, 2010 at 5:14 am
if explaining that there is no more use of breast feeding doesn’t work have a sitter come in at bedtime for a few days to take you away as an option and to allow your milk to dry up- then you can prove to him that your breasts are broken.
February 1st, 2010 at 10:11 am
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February 1st, 2010 at 11:55 am
that’s so cute you told them they were “broken”.
Well, there are basically two strategies here- the slow and gentle technique or the “ripping off the bandaid” technique (as I like to call it). Slow and gentle, continue calmly explaining to him that he’s too big for breasts anymore, if he’s got friends in daycare it might help to point out that “none of the other boys breastfeed anymore” (sometimes you can use peer pressure to your advantage, but becareful, if you overdo it it will backfire), and allow him to take his time and stop when he’s ready (which may not be for awhile)
OR
Send him off to Gramma’s for the weekend, it may help to make your breasts “out of sight and out of mind” but letting him stay with someone he’s comfortable with. Wearing a tight bra can help prevent engorgement during this time. When he comes home, stand your ground, “big boys don’t breastfeed; big boys can drink chocolate milk and play with their cars and ooo, watch this awesome new DVD mommy bought you, but big boys do not breastfeed.”
Establish a new calming bedtime routine (if you don’t have one already), to help soothe him to sleep, which seems to be the main reason he’s still breastfeeding. A nice warm bath, a story, and a cuddle with mom can be just as soothing as the breast.
Good luck.