im about to have a little boy and me and the father arent together but he still is going to be in our sons life. well im planning on breast feeding and they said for the first at least 8 weeks you are only suppose to feed from the nipple but i want him to be able to take him over night. is there anyway i can pump from the very beginning instead of doing it by nipple or is there anyway he can take him overnight before 8 weeks? i need yalls opinions thanks
November 28th, 2009 at 4:11 pm
its very hard to be away from your newborn period, there is no way i could do it. your son could be like my daughter, never once take a bottle, its possible. i dont have any help for you really since a newborn thats breastfed should not be away from mom.
November 28th, 2009 at 6:09 pm
I tried breastfeeding and I found that without a nipple shield it hurts! Obviously! But if I were you, I would try to get him to latch on while you are at the hospital and then try a nipple shield. It will help when the father has to take him because the shield helps with nipple confusion, so when he does take him overnight and you’ve phumped into a bottle, he wont have problems feeding from the breast again. And its a bonus for you because it take A LOT of the soreness away but still gives you that closeness and the baby the nutrients! And yes, you can pump from the beginning, I tired pumping my colostrom and it hurt too much so I did formula until my milk came in and started pumping and breastfeeding then
November 29th, 2009 at 12:06 am
I think before 4 wks he should just come spend the day or a few hours with you a few times a week. That will help you sleep too. That first week he should stay with you and help you. You will need the help. Even if you aren’t together you might as well make good friends of eachother you have to deal with eachother now… after 6 wks you can pump while he is out with the baby for a few hours one day and come over when he wants maybe even spend the night if you feel good about it , but no overnights for 6 wks I think it’s important that your baby is a good nurser before giving bottles sometimes it can confuse them even if it’s pumped.
November 29th, 2009 at 3:57 am
You can pump from the beginning, lots of moms supplement with formula from birth and a lot of babies have no issues going backand forth from nipple to breast. Think hard about it though, My son is almost 5 months and I wouldn’t dream of letting anyone have him over night. It is very hard to be away from your newborn, I know I couldn’t have let my newborn stay the night with someone else. Newborns eat a lot at night, so you would ahev to pump quite a few bottles. There’s plenty of time in the day for his father to spend with him, why not just give him daytime visits for the first year? That’s what most courts would do anyways.
November 29th, 2009 at 4:00 am
it’s best for the mother for him to feed from the nipple only at first since a lot of babies will prefer a bottle and after feeding from it won’t go back to a nipple because a bottle is easier for them to suck from. If you’re comfortable with him possibly only using a bottle you can pump but make sure you do it often to keep your milk supply up. Some babies will go back and forth from bottle to nipple and if that’s the case then you should have no problem.
Hope that helps, good luck
November 29th, 2009 at 7:39 am
If you are planning to breastfeed some say you should wait at least 4-6 weeks before you give your son a bottle to help avoid any nipple confusion and to help establish good breastfeeding habits. He may just have to wait until your son starts taking a bottle or maybe he can stay the night with you and bring your son to you when he is hungry or you can go to his house and do the same thing.
November 29th, 2009 at 11:09 am
pump pump pump! invest in a good pump. the days before he is going to take the baby pump as much as you can. you can pump and put it in a bottle and give it to the baby. its not a law that you HAVE to do it by nipple. remember formula is fine for a baby, and it is easier to pack than a whole bunch of pre pumped bottles. trust me! lol. you do it however you feel is best for you. what is good for you is not always good for someone else.
November 29th, 2009 at 5:15 pm
i had twins so i introduced the bottle in the hospital and they never had any problem going back and forth.
it is different for every baby though.
if he doesn’t want to breastfeed from the breast though you will have made your life much more difficult since breastfeeding is so much easier than pumping.
i’m sure you will work something out, sorry i don’t have any other advice.. it really just depends on your baby if he will want to breastfeed after having bottles.
November 29th, 2009 at 11:20 pm
i would tell him he has to wait you don’t want your baby to get nipple confusion he needs to get used to nursing and being able to latch on right it can be really hard when you first start breastfeeding…so i say make him wait..
aslo my daughter is 15 months old and still never been away from me over night
November 29th, 2009 at 11:45 pm
when you have that baby you will probably not want to let him leave you overnight. especially being that little. i would wait before you schedule your baby to go to his father’s house. wait until you have him and see if you can handle it. if not work something out where he comes and visits often
November 30th, 2009 at 6:25 am
i pumped and gave the bottle occaisnly starting when my son was 11 days (it was thanksgiving) my son did fine, no latch on issues.
but everybaby is different..
if you do it, make sure your still pumping during the night so your supply wont get messed up!
November 30th, 2009 at 7:07 am
Both my boys got a bottle of expressed milk before 8 weeks. If that is what you both want to do it should be fine. I am still nursing my 13 month old 1-2 times a day. My oldest spent the night away from me when he was 10 weeks old and he did just fine.
November 30th, 2009 at 12:11 pm
I waited four weeks before I tried giving my baby the bottle. If you choose, you can pump from the beginning. I am not sure how that works at first when the baby is first born though.
November 30th, 2009 at 1:59 pm
have the dad wait until the baby is no longer breast feeding, maybe in the meantime let him visit his son at your house or go so something together